The Shadow Wife

Why do you talk to him instead of me?
If I was tall like him, would you see me?
If my voice bounced deep like a taut bass drum, would you hear me?
Is this implied invalidity and apparent invisibility
Purely down to inherited partiality to gender inequality?
If you heard me, would my words resonate with you?
If you saw me, would we see eye to eye?
Would you still talk to him instead of me?